On February 5, students anonymously submitted their burning relationship and their questions of intimacy to the members of the daily tag on Walayway, and some submitted questions via Instagram. These questions were then transmitted to me, the sexpert resident.
Together, we will explore these questions and, hopefully, the applicants will be able to obtain a certain clarity.
The questions submitted will be resolved in one of the three categories: relationships, sex and self-esteem (there are only some of these questions, but it is an important subject). Let’s start, all of you.
Sex
1. What is too high in a number of bodies?
In my opinion and humble, the number of bodies is a metric that should not have any importance. In most cases, Knowing the number has no impact on how your partner treats you. In cases where to indicate to a partner your “number of bodies” leads to problems of tension or intimacy, you should both take some time to explore where the discomfort comes from. No one should be ashamed of their sexual history, and that the history is not relevant to your current relationship.
2. How often should couples have sex?
This is a very subjective question. The only real answer is: “Whenever you have it like that.” There is no magic number that tells you how often you should have sex in your relationship. Everyone’s libido is different, and there will be times when you are in mood and your partner is not (and vice versa). It is a totally normal part of relationships. Statistically, Most couples have sex at least once a week. I think you should have sex when it is comfortable and practical for both of you.
Relations / meetings
1. What is the best date to take a girl?
This is another subjective (incredibly) question. No one is just like any other. Ideally, you want to know it and plan a date for your two interests. However, there are fun ideas such as rolling skates, going to a escape room, going to a dragster show or picnic. Teenage vogue Has a fairly extensive list of date ideas if you feel perplexed.
2. Why do men on dating applications have commitment problems for dates?
Unfortunately, I have no perfect answer to this question. There are a good part of people on dating applications that are not looking to connect. Or maybe they are simply not ready for the commitment of a relationship. Maybe they just wanted a simple and digital night of flirting. The truth is that I don’t know. But you do it. The best thing you can do is be transparent in your expectations and ask the people you are talking to. You will find your match.
3. How do you say if they are?
Admittedly, I have little first -hand experience to “find the one”. I did research and the main sign is to have a feeling of comfort and house around the other person. Can you imagine building a life and aging together? Do you feel like you can bring out the best of each other? Many people describe him as a feeling that you are in the right place and at the right time. It’s up to you to decide if it is “this one”.
4. Reflections on a situation? Are they a waste of time?
Again, this is my personal opinion – situations are a complete waste of your time. Even the name is heavy and difficult to define. In the world of meetings and relationships, you should devote time and effort to someone who does the same for you. It is best to move on and protect your peace if there is a unilateral part. If, for any reason, you are both interested in a concrete relationship and use the form of a “situation” to avoid feelings (or something else), explore this discomfort. You might miss something good.
5. How long do you have to be together to get married? How do you know when to get married?
Now the average duration of the relationship before becoming over 2 years. However, the question of the duration of your whole is intensely personal and different for each relationship. I would refer to the questions I asked in response number five. If you both have the impression of being ready to start a life together and see you being together for a long time, there is no time limit on marriage.
6. What is the height to keep my standards when I go out?
Well, very? Everyone should endeavor to manage for themselves with regard to meetings. You are looking for someone you will spend a lot of time with whom you are making efforts. It is important that you do this for someone looking for the same thing.
7. How can I break with someone?
Do it in person. Be honest with them. Do not expect friendship immediately afterwards. Essentially, give the other person the grace you would like for yourself. Rupture is a difficult thing to do.
Self -love
1. Are souls real? Or is love coincident?
It is time for another personal opinion. I think, in reality, it’s a bit of both. You have to get involved in the idea of soul mate and believe that you are supposed to be with the person you love. I do not think that everyone has a single perfect soul mate or that the souls are always romantic (I could not imagine my life without my best friend). However, I think you cannot be the best sister soul of someone else unless you see the value in you.
2. How can I have a better relationship with myself?
This advice comes from my own therapist and Psychology todaySo you know that I don’t invent anything. First of all, you should know that it goes beyond standard personal care. You can have spa days and train and take care of your body while having a bad relationship with yourself. Self -love takes on a level of commitment and intention that the strange day of the spa cannot resolve alone. You must set objectives in the short and long term – be aware of the attraction of instant gratuity. I don’t mean that personal care should take the burner in the back because it is an important part of this process. Overall, be nice to yourself.
Remember, everyone deserves love. This love can be family, platonic, romantic, etc. You are worth it.
Love, Ren
Renee Hamlin is a second year student at UT this year by studying linguistics and Russian studies and is co -chair of sexual empowerment in Tennessee. They can be reachedahamlin5@vols.utk.edu.
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