Dear Abby: My wife and I went for our annual exams seven months ago. We were both overweight and our respective doctors told us that we had to make lifestyle changes to improve our health. Since then, I have made the necessary changes. As a result, I lost 40 pounds and all my vital signs are in a healthy range.
My wife has not made any change. There was no weight loss and she has to take medication for some problems. While I made sacrifices, she apologized. I love her very much, but I am very frustrated. I was positive and encouraging, but that does not seem to help.
We are both at an age when we have to take our health seriously. It is not an appearance or an appearance; This is health. I really want us to have long and healthy lives together. If there are advice that you can provide, I am open to hearing it. – FITTER in Indiana
Dear Fitter: In addition to modeling healthy exercises and eating habits for your wife, you can do nothing to force her to leave the trajectory she is. Changing your lifestyle (or not) is a personal choice. The motivation must come from the inside and it must be determined to make the effort. Her doctor, not you, should discuss these changes with her and the reasons for this. Even small changes can make a big difference.
Dear Abby: I have a 7-year-old great-granddaughter, “Emma”. She is beautiful, intelligent, happy and just wonderful. His father, my grandson and his mother are no longer together, but they share guard. My grandson has since gathered with baby mom n ° 2 and has two other children with her.
Emma’s life was not the easiest because of fights and disagreements. His mother is also with another man and has other children. His mother’s boyfriend is not nice to Emma. My grandson tries to take care of her full.
Emma is brilliant and intelligent. I would like to tell her about independence and not depend on a man to support her. I know that at 7 years old, she is still too young to understand. What is a good age to teach him independence and how to provide for his needs, and rather than “need” a man, it is healthier to be with someone without depending on him? – His “gee-gee” in Colorado
Dear “Gee-Gee”: This is not a unique lesson that you are trying to transmit. It is a life process. The first thing you need to do is become a model for Emma. Explain it to books and videos on independent women, building careers and lives for themselves rather than depending on a man. So teach him self-respect. If you do, these are lessons that she will take with her in adulthood.
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