Dear Abby: I recently returned to a work colleague. We were friendly, but not really what I would call friends. We have reconnected on social networks and had lunch several times. The problem is that she has become a very negative, aggressive and angry person. S
He spends our time hitting a family, former colleagues and almost all the services she met. She refuses to stop talking about politics even if I clearly indicated that I am not comfortable with that.
The first lunch was bad, but I thought I would give him another blow. The second lunch was worse, and I decided that I would not reach out or not make plans. Then she made a comment that made me feel inclined to try to be friends with her. She said she didn’t have many friends.
Two or three lunches later, I can’t Continue to do so. I try to get rid of negative influences, some of which are family members, and I do not need to continue spending time with this individual. If it reaches out again, should I continue to apologize until it gets the index, or should I be honest? I’m a little afraid of her because, seeing the way she strikes people, I know she would hit me with other people we know, and I could do without that. – To be mistaken in North Carolina
Dear Merdet: There is no reason to be unpleasant towards this woman in difficulty. Start being busy when she contacts you. If she traps you saying something like: “If your schedule is too full this month, what would you say next month?” Make an appointment with her. If it starts to denigrate the others, stop it. Smile and say, “Let’s talk about something else. Something pleasant. “Then continue to be less available for longer stretches.
Dear Abby: My wife sets up with me and I love her for that. I have my challenges. I was involved in a frontal car accident 15 years ago and I suffered a number of long -term injuries. I can do most of what I want physically, but not everything. I took medication for the residual brain problems of the accident and I can get angry without much warning.
I had family and individual therapy. I do the exercise, meditate (but not as often as I should), I take medication to keep myself stable and have reminders in various places on what I should do and not do.
I buy my wife’s flowers quite regularly and often remain fun. I also take good care of our son special needs. What other things would you suggest that I do to help him know that I love her? – Lucky guy in Florida
Dear lucky guys: Your wife probably already knows it. But if you excuse yourself when you fly from the handle, show affection and tell him every day how much you like it and how blessed you feel in your life, it will transmit the message you want to transmit.
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