Dear Abby: My brother-in-law thinks he is good with his hands. He built a bridge at the back of his house, and it is obvious that he is not a professional.
My husband and I never sat on his bridge because he doesn’t look sure. (Others said the same thing.)
He praised me on the way he fled without having to take a license and never inspected the city while he was building it. He also did not inspected it when it was finished.
I am afraid one day, someone will be seated on their bridge and it will collapse, and people will injure themselves.
I am afraid that if I call the city to report it and that the city comes home or sends it a letter or calls it, he will discover who reported it, even if I say that I want to remain anonymous. (The city records all telephone calls, and they also have the caller identifier.)
When I tried to tell him about it, he told me to stay outside that because it’s not my things. So, do I keep my mouth closed and I hope that no one will be injured? – Relative concerned in the Midwest
Dear parent: Please do not keep your mouth closed! Currently, time can be too cold for your brother-in-law to make entertainment on this bridge.
But the next time he organizes friends and family, there could be an accident that could change his life forever.
This must be reported before someone is seriously injured or killed.
Dear Abby: I fall in love with a man in church. I am a widow and it’s a widower. We have seen ourselves for about two months.
We speak for hours on the phone and in person. He is a writer, a poet and a musician. He reads me biblical poems and verses and even sing me. We both laugh and happy.
Unfortunately, I have much more money than him.
He knows that I have a nice older car, but he didn’t see my condo. I’m afraid he doesn’t like me if he discovers that I have a lot of money.
I want to help him update her apartment because it’s very humble, and I don’t know how to do it.
I want to be honest with him and help him, but I’m afraid it will change things and this money will put a wall between us. Any advice you have will be useful. – Perplex in Florida
Dear puzzled: Keep your mouth closed and your wallet closed. You have seen this man for only two months, and even if you think you fall in love with him, he may not have fallen in love with you yet.
Do not redecorate the apartment of anyone before being in a committed relationship, if then.
The time to discuss the financial assets you have both when it comes to marriage, and the place of this conversation could be the office of your lawyer or your CPA. I cannot emphasize it too strongly.
To my Irish readers: Happy Feast of Saint Patrick!
“That the most you want to be the least you get.
That the best moments you have ever had the worst that you will never see.
Love, Abby
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