Dear Abby: I feel judged by the sumptuous lifestyle of my recently divorced friend

Dear Abby: I met an acquaintance a few months ago during a brief work situation. We have established a friendship (or at least I thought) and had lunch or dinner together several times. She recently divorced and has a fantasy house, a lot of expensive clothes, handbags and a mega-cher vehicle, which her ex paid.

I now had the distinct impression that she judges me for my modest house, etc., which I paid for myself, while putting my son through exemplary schools on my modest income. I don’t think I’m wrong about it. It is a combination of small things, like not to publish our outings on social networks as it does with other friends, for example, as well as to come only when it suits her.

At this point, I hardly even want a relationship with her because she seems superficial. If and when it happens, how should I politely refuse? Or would it be wrong to say what I feel in class?

– Incompatible in Texas

Dear incompatible: I can think in any polite way of telling people that their values ​​are moved and superficial. The woman is unlikely to change them on this late date. A polished way of refusing would be to tell him that you are not available. If she presses you more, tell her that you don’t think you are both compatible.

PS Before brushing it, examine your motivation to want to do it. Could it be only because it has so much more material things than you feel embarrassed about it? Just ask …