For Nichole Gonzalez, giving birth to her daughter now, a girl, at the end of 2023, was a family affair.
As she pushed her husband, Frank, held her left leg – while their girlfriend, Sasha, held the right.
“It was important to have my two partners in the delivery room,” a 29 -year -old, a mother in the north of New Jersey, told The Post Gonzalez.
As a polyamatrous parent of her little daughter and a nine-year-old son, she is in the growing number of mothers and fathers exploring consensual non-monogamy (CNM).
It is a non-restrictive relational style that allows couples to pursue sexual and romantic ties beyond the limits of a partnership for two people.
The avant-garde arrangement is a daily configuration for about one in five adults in the United States and Canada, According to a 2024 report From the University of Quebec, which noted: “Among those who practice the CNM, many have children”.
Investigators interviewed 18 children of polyamatrous parents to note that “these children generally appreciated their parents’ partners”.
“These adults were considered by our participants as someone who has contributed positively to their lives,” wrote study authors, adding that children loved a fun and more complete life with the additional darling of mom and / or dad.
However, recent Data via Cornell UniversityNote: “… polyamourous families can exercise positive and negative impacts on their children.”
The results indicate that the puppies raised in polyamourous families are sensitive to a certain number of drawbacks, in particular “the potential loss of (year) relationships with adult partners once a romantic relationship ends and societal stigmatization”.
But Gonzalez told the post that she and his partners were versatile for Keep.
The holistic healer, said her brood – whose names she chose to omit for privacy – even considers Sasha, 29, a third parent.
“My son said,” I like her name, but I would like to call him mom, “recalls Gonzalez.
The Tike was seven years old when she and Frank found Sasha on 3funA dating application for polyamourous people. And during the two years that have become that became through, Gonzalez’s family was made whole.
“If you bring the right person to your family, your children have more love,” she said, “it is the best thing that a child can have.”
Gigi Engle, a certified psychotherapist on sex and relationships, accepted. She told the post: “When you raise a child inside a polyamorous unit, you actually have more guards for your child.”
“You have more hands, more advice and more love to give children”, ” said EngleA 3Fun privacy expert. “It can really be a good thing.”
Courtney Boyers, a self -crushed self -written “football mother” from Seattle, is however happy to keep her little friends separated from kids – and her monogamous husband, Nathan.
Unless, of course, the family expresses their interest in knowing their men.
“None of them wanted to meet (my ex) except my elder and my husband,” said Courtney, 42, a relationship coach. “It was the first time that Nathan has encountered one of my partners, and he really liked the guy. It was sad that it did not work between us. ”
But Nathan did not always hold his 20 -year -old wife to have other men in his life.
“When Courtney came out as a poly, it really made me re -examine what I wanted as a parent, partner and husband,” said Nathan, creating therapy to help him kiss his polyamory.
Courtney, a formerly pious traditionalist, expressed his desire to go out with other guys during their 17th anniversary dinner. It was a hard pill for Nathan, a soldier and a doctor, to swallow.
“It was not easy, and there were a lot of injuries and pains to manage, but we decided to stay married and improve,” he said. “I became more favorable and loving.”
Courtney, who meets most of his partners on Hinge, has become more released since its release in June 2023.
“I was terrified, they would consider me a monster or disgusting,” said the mother, admitting that she is engaged in several occasional “connections” with men who made her feel “disposable” during her early childhood in polyamamory – the dalliances she “really hated”. She has since refocused her views of more significant relationships.
And her children could not be happier for her.
“They said,” We love you. We don’t care about it, ”recalls a courtness in tears. “It was the most beautiful thing.”
Honesty has transformed Courtney parenting.
“I take each of my children for individual dates every month,” she said. “If I can take the time to take dates with men that I don’t know, I can do the same with my children – we are going to a restaurant and let’s talk about everything.”
For Los Angeleno Jame Barrett, his five women and their 11 children, there were not many discussions on moving in a house of 5,500 square feet, six bedrooms Like a large Poly family.
Barrett, 30, simply proposed the idea to his bride tribe – Reda, 28, Cameron, 29, Gabriela, 30, Diana, 30, and Jessica, 31 years old – in a group text.
“It was a shock when he sent the text,” said Jessica, a mother of two, who is currently expecting.
She and Diana, the oldest mother of the polycule, son aged 13 and 11, should give birth to the same week in September. Cameron, the only legal wife in Barrett, is also pregnant and due on June 30.
“But now my children live under the same roof as their father,” continued Jessica. “This is what I have always wanted.”
All women say to the publication that they are fortunately monogamous on the left Real Estate Pro, which says that polyamamory Make him a better father.
“I can be there for my sons and my daughters-I do not miss,” he said. “I am their first example of love.”
But it does not push the polyamamory on the pack.
“I’m kidding with my three older sons and I ask,” How many wives are you going to have? ” “, Laughing Barrett. “They are like,” one! ” »»