For a reader, it is not an appearance or appearance; This is health.
Dear Abby: My wife and I went for our annual exams seven months ago. We were both overweight and our respective doctors told us that we had to make lifestyle changes to improve our health. Since then, I have made the necessary changes. As a result, I lost 40 pounds and all my vital signs are in a healthy range.
My wife has not made any change. There was no weight loss and she has to take medication for some problems. While I made sacrifices, she apologized. I love her very much, but I am very frustrated. I was positive and encouraging, but that does not seem to help.
We are both at an age when we have to take our health seriously. It is not an appearance or an appearance; This is health. I really want us to have long and healthy lives together. If there are advice that you can provide, I am open to hearing it.
– Fitter in Indiana
Dear Fitter: In addition to modeling healthy exercises and eating habits for your wife, you can do nothing to force her to leave the trajectory she is. Changing your lifestyle (or not) is a personal choice. The motivation must come from the inside and it must be determined to make the effort. Her doctor, not you, should discuss these changes with her and the reasons for this. Even small changes can make a big difference.